Puppy Love

I was quite worried there are bad repercussions on her over the unhappy married that her mother been through. One day, she told me her cousin sister who is ather age liking someone in the school.

"Oh, how nice. Is he study well?" All the parents have similar concerns, I'm not exceptional

"Yep, top 5 ranking in the class." She said

"Is he good looking?" Hahaha, this is more like a mother's concern

"hmm...y....e...ss?" She felt bit reluctant to answer.

"How about you, do you have anyone you like?". I follow with this question after a few warm chat with her.

"Nope, I don't like anyone", "I won't get married". She said

"It isn't a bad thing to like someone", "in fact it's fairly normal if you like someone, just like you liking me". I know she hasn't got over the trauma.

"I don't want". She said assertively.

Few months later.

 

"How's your school?"

"Good. But there is a boy keeps disturbing me" She said and her shyness shown.

"Ok". I felt a bit relieved, at last she able to open her heart. I let her continue.

"This boy is ...... and ......". She keeps talking and talking.
"So do you like him?" I asked
"hmmm...."
"It's ok, if you tell me that you like him." I encourage her. "If the boy is a good boy, study well. You can always like a boy just like you liking a girl, there are friends afterall and you could learn the positivities from friends".

So yeah, this is what I would educate my child. Essentially, in the process of recovering whether mentally or psychologically, conscious or unconscious, direct or indirectly, we able to tell what's in their mind from a small chats. Our encouragement and positivities input would change the way they conceived.

This conversation thought her about:

a) Have an open heart. Liking shouldn't depends on gender, this is the first move of an open heart.
b) Liking is positive attitudes, just like loves everyone needs love, should instill such mentality.
c) Be truthful about own feelings. They get confused if their feeling got surpressed
d) Liking the positive vibes. Afterall, they would like anyone anyways in the future.

So I like sharing her small stories about things happening in her school, her "liking" and her "disliking", we build stronger bond within.

Benefits of Being a Single Mother

Oh what benefits does a single mother gets? I come across a single mother post on this topic, that got me muse for a long while. Given a new chapter to embark on in all the sudden mode I guess everyone faced the same challenge - struggle to begin with. Being a single mother was dreadful at the begining. However god created an intelligent us to be able to adapt into new environment over the time. So here I'm, a happy single mother.

As I mentiond in my last post, there isn't a perfect situation in life, grass is always greener on the other side. When you're married you tend to wish to be single, or vice versa, when you got no children you wish to have one. To me, life is dynamic and mysterous, you don't know what's ahead of you, who knows one day you might met a prince. Well, so accept whatever come in your way. I'm not saying I strieve to be a single mother, but when it happen I try to look from the bright side. I enjoy being a Single Mother because:

1. Yes, some says raising a child single handedly is lot more easier than with both parents present. I guess it's true to certain extent, as many a times it can be the cause of divorce. So you make the call on how the child being raise and discipline and no will stay side.

2. You get to be a Single Woman yet enjoy provisioning motherhood at the same time? Today, many woman opted to raise a child without marriage, I guess they will agreed with me on this.

3. A motivation of life. Something you look forward to each day.

4. It's a success symbolic? I love the feeling of seeing your own child grown to your expectation. It's a challenge but rewarding.

5. Less complicated, your focus is on the child and child alone. A family required more attention, not to mentioned extended family.

6. Oh, most of all you get 200% loves from your child, that's most rewarding.

I love feeling the strong bond developed within, when they feel the same way, they will revert the same affetions if not more.

So that's my answer if you'd ask me.

Travelling Tips to Siem Reap

Single woman travelling can be quite challenging, budget and security are utmost vital in travelling plan, not to mention when you travel with kid. I opted a 4 star resort than a guest house to reassure her comfortability and security, especially in Cambodia. My plan for 3 Day 2 Night in Siem Reap is short but plentiful. Our logistic as follow.

Accomodation: :Lotus Resort & Spa . Clean, serene, beautiful 4-star boutique hotel, it feels comfortable, USD75/night. Depends on season and budget, some Guest House is quite clean and safe which cost around USD15/day.

Dedicated Tour Guide: Mr Nao Chanseyha, English Speaking, provide private car and good Photographer. Dedicated means they will take you to places you wanted to go for one full day. They could also be your tour guide taking you to popular tourist attractions if you don't have itinerary, and they definitely come in handy when you need certain travelling advise. We depart from hotel at 8am, back to hotel after dinner at 8pm. Total cost for such service  at USD30/day.Easy to commute and unlimited stops. naochanseyha@gmail.com.  Trust worthy and reliable.

Orphanage visit: Daruma Support Children 21 supported by Japan community located along the river bank to Tonle Sap. Contact: mailto:darumaaiikuen@online.com.kh.%20I. I

spotted this children home on my way to Tonle Sap Jetty, not being promoted in the web, worth a visit.

Tourist Attraction : Angkor Wat/Bayon. Beautiful sunrise and heritage sites. Should visit if you love history and ancient legacy cost USD20/day, children is free. Do allocate one day to spend at this heritage temples. During peak season, there will be throng of people visiting, kids especially be made to draw business from tourist, take care of own belongings and beware of pickpockets. 

Photography: Dedicated tour guide come in handy if you're a photography fanatic, you could make multiple stops as river bank to Tonle Sap Jetty is something  worth to capture, it's educational and photo-valuable.

My trip would have been perfect if I didn't lose the camera and I could share more photos here. Is it a fate that I will go back to Cambodia again?

My blogger friend told me to makeup so I could look good in the One Day Pass><. In fact she told me to dress well so could bring good memories back from my travels, she was right indeed. So remember to dress well in your travelling. Visit here, if you wish to get more travelling tips.