Irreplaceable Lyrics

I'm going to ramble about something tonite, so you can give a pass for this post. haa. No, I didn't intend to blog so many songs, it just happen.

The phrase 'To The Left' extracted from 'Irreplaceable' by Beyonce. I use this phrase as my post title because it carries so much emotions beneath it than the original song title. haha. I like it. This a MUST WATCH MV^^.

To The Left To The Left

To The Left To The Left

To The Left To The Left

This song explicate her break up from a nasty relationship (I like it straightforward and simple). She spotted boyfriend cheatted on her crusing around with another gal in the car she bought.  

(Wow, she's cool!! She definitely deserve someone better. Hey she bought a car for him!! What a great deal!! Her generousity is undoubtedly yet the boy friend cheated on her - Well, this may not happening in the real world, who'll buy boyfriend a car right? at lest I can't afford loh. But I would like to think should you'd done your best in a relationship yet not being appreciated guess you should take a time-out.)

Watching this MV and lyrics has delighted my day, so amusing!! She was such a BITCH (in the MV) but GOOD BITCH, Beyonce is truely playing role as if she's the gal, she make me relate to it so damn much! haha. The entire song was so hillarious, she pushing him to move away the whole time!! haha (OMG! I am so relate to the song)

And keep talking that mess, that's fine
But could you walk and talk at the same time?
And it's my mine name that is on that tag
So remove your bags let me call you a cab

His sarcasm about she'll never find a man like him (which was a typical men's thought, what the heck!) but she never kowtow to crap like this, in fact that only make her decision more concrete. She determine to put the crap behind and move on with her life. What a bitch! haha.

Standing in the front yard telling me
How I'm such a fool, talking about
How I'll never ever find a man like you
You got me twisted

You must not know 'bout me

You must not know 'bout me

I can have another you by tomorrow
So don't you ever for a second get to thinking you're irreplaceable

Knowing he'll deny the truth and to avoid falling into his trump, she was so cool about her discovery, what a smart and confident woman. BRAVO!

So go ahead and get gone

And call up that chick and see if she's home

Oops, I bet ya thought that I didn't know

What did you think I was putting you out for?

Because you was untrue
Rolling her around in the car that I bought you
Baby you dropped them keys
Hurry up before your taxi leaves

This song does sound very similar to Rihana 'Take a Bow', but this version of cynical, bitchiness is definitely more entertaining.

THIS SONG IS REALLY SOMETHING ^^

You're Grounded !

Single mother parenting  can be fairly hard, be it to instill proper manner, rectify bad habits/mistake or adhere to rules. You failed to be stringent due to their mental condition from your separation, subconciously you blame yourself for causing all these mistakes.

You didn't want to add salt to their wound as they are coping with the separation, deprieved from the absence love, trauma over times. Enforcing disciplines over the little heart and mind is tough especially when they start weeping, NOT CRYING!

They are relatively behave because you're the only one they could count on, they don't want to upset you. Psychologically, they might even blame themselve for causing the separation etc, thus they are more demure than children who has both parents. They lose the options of being demanding, yes, most parents find repulsive when children being demanding but not single parent, to me at least. 

It was an evening on our usual way home.

" I got beaten by teacher". she said warily.  " Why?" I baffled.

" Because I didn't do homework". She answered and look at me.  "Why didn't you do your homework?". I asked gradually, I encouraged her to tell the truth.

" I didn't know how to do". She paused. " You could have asked me". I probed further but calm.

" You were always busy". At this juncture her tears lingering.

" But I always ask if you have done your homework.................".  I was speechless at this point of time. Yes she was in the wrong for not doing homework, again it was my neglicence to aid her study, although I took care of her trauma and spend time  with her. I felt bad....deeply, I felt heart broken. I find I still wasn't good enough.

"She could have been in better situation if both parents are around", I thought but that is something I couldn't provide.

So I gave in.... but I know the more I give in the more I spoil her, this applied to all every mis-behaviors. The next time when she tells me the same thing, I told her " You're Grounded".

To be able to displine your child effectively , you need to:

1. Set priority. If you admit you play a part to be responsible, reshuffle your schedule. Don't let BUSY drive your life.

2. Be Rational. Deviate your emotions during disciplinary session. You're well aware situation they are in shoundn't be an excuse to mis-behave, thus the better person they have to be.

3. Be calm. Shouting, anger, fierce to children would aggravate the situation. They might not even share with situation like this in the future. Or worse, anything. Thus you also to establishe good relation with your kid.

4. Show your loves always eventually Children will able to  relate your love to things you want them to do.

5. Explain the reason of being 'punish'. They must be clear that you're punishing them out of love.

6. Make sure they understand what mistakes are so they won't repeat it again. Show them what are the detrimental point so they are aware of the negatives returns.

7. Obtain promises that they won't repeat the mistake, it will be easier to teach them next time. It will be more effective when the promises come from them instead of  being 'impose'.

8. Show your support in the process of change. i.e Do home work together, make her good meal whilst she's studying, praise her from time to time.

Of all guidelines above-mentioned, continuous showing love or telling them how much you love them will remind them you did it for love sake.

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The One That Got Away Lyrics

If you're looking for Lyrics of 'The One That Got Away', here you go. But I must tell you that the MV production is fucking crap, I felt being deceived, at least.

I heard this song on one sunny morning drive to Office. The rythm was cool, the melody was awesome and the lyrics was something I like. That reminds me of my younger days. I hit google with this phrase ' talk about future like we had a clue' something what I'd been through in the past.

I was very excited about the song, so I went on searching the MV from Youtube. I listen to the song whilst checking out the lyhrics trying to understand the full meaning of it. I'm not sure if you'll do the same when come to a song you really like, anyways this is me, I 'll search hi-lo relentlessly just to learn it.

So I got the lyrics and learnt that it was Katy Perry's. Hey, I like her as I like few other of her songs. Anyways this post is not about how much I like about her but about The One That Got Away.

The MV was cool and I got moved by the scenes. It begins with very old uptrend couple having their cold conversation, she doesn't felt love or being loved. She begins musing about her ex whom she met during her teen. They had good time, madly in love and had matching tattoo. Over one big fight, he got upset, drove the car away and crashed into  cliff.... (my mind was like a car screeching to break) 'Wait, the lyrics said otherwise!!'.  I revert to the MV and lyrics back and forth, there go mismatches between Lyrics and MV and the overall production:

1. Lyrics said he started new life but MV shown he died in car crash!! What's this? How could the MV production disaligned with the lyric? Miscomm?? I was like wtf .==. HA.



Someone said you had your tattoo removed
Saw you downtown singing the Blues
It's time to face the music
I'm no longer your muse

Combination of audio and visual exalt the connection to the song, as such mismatches like this a BIG NO NO!

2. In the MV, she played as a very old woman leading an uppertrend life. What make her doesn't satisfied about? Ya, first love was always memorable. But HELLOOO, she's already an old white haired woman, probably at her 70s, hasn't she learnt to move on? Hasn't she learnt to accept the fact that it was already a past? Further more musing at this age, isn't it too late? I wonder was it a casting error? Who was the producer?

3. The very first time I heard 'In another life', I couldn't quite register with it as i never learnt the west believed in 'Another life', aren't they are the eternal life devotees? Again is this a cultural exchange?  or It's another error? Or I'm just too shallow?

Anyways, if you like this song below is the lyrics and the MV is embeded, It's a nice song still if you're not  particular about mismatches.

Mariage Journey Begins II

I found this from my previous journal. Something I wanted to share with you.

"why spending the unnecessary on Valentine's Day?"  said, a friend married with one kid.

"Have you ever buy her anything during your courtship?", I asked.

"Nope", he answered firmly. "but I bought on her birthday", he added.

"How about now?" , I never give up.

"Nope, but I make efforts over the years to develop our future". He said.

To develop the future for the family, he fell into the stereotype of marriage which I covered  in my recent post -  Relationship Ended, Marriage Begins.

 

" When are you getting married?" I was so amazed with people who ask this question, especially those who are married.

" I already married once, I'm not in the hurry now." I replied using my usual line, I realised life is more than just getting married.

"Are you happily married" I asked. The usual reply will be "quite good, our live is progressing". No one will reveal the truth. Matter of fact, people who ask this question show a sign of doubt in their own situation - why would I get married in the first place.

So what's my ideal marriage? Do I really want to get married again?

Marriage is not something easy to manage unless fundamentally both parties are committed (C) and willing to compromise (C), consider (C) & comprehend (C) along the way. Overtime it can be diverted else where, that's where the problem arise.  Essentially it's takes strong LOVE to sustain the Marriage 4Cs elements, when the loves die everything else were just an empty shell. However misperception from most people is that's a natural process.

"How to sustain the ROMANTIC LOVE amid life challenges?" Most of the time LOVES died along the way.

Back to basic. Hormones draw us attracted  to someone who can complement ourselve.

However most people enter into marriage for wrong reasons be it pressure from peers, family or society. This is another topic by itself, but if you able to assess your needs and wants, you make thing less complicated. Sometime we got blind folded to see what's ahead and what's beneath when Loves come in strong wave, only the strong one will power one would able to flip the coin.

Let's make a simple analogy.

Pantai Hospital

I was recommended by a General Practioner to visit a specialist at Pantai Medical Centre.

As I follow the direction from road sign down the sloop, I came across Pantai Hospital Instead. I wasn't sure if the Pantai Medical Centre part of Pantai Hospital. I tried to look everywhere but couldn't see the sign of PANTAI MEDICAL CENTRE!!! Finally I got confirmation that Pantai Hospital is Pantai Medical Centre. wtf.

"HOW CAN IT BE POSSIBLE? HOSPITAL AND MEDICAL CENTRE SHOULD BE TWO DIFFERENT ENTITY", I THOUGHT.

So I hit Google, below is the finding:

Medical centers usually have additional components besides providing direct patient care, such as teaching sites for healthcare students as well as conducting clinical research studies.



SEE?? There is a difference!!! How could they possibly expect visitors to know both medical centre and hospital located the same premises with no signage on???

Then I drove into car park ( I parked at 1A, floor between 2 floors.) and walked to the direction pointing LIFT TO LOBBY. As I stepped in i'm between staircases ==I, I chose going up however I hit another staircase and another. So I thought I might had mistaken  'staircase' as 'lift to Lobby' (Don't think I'm that no brainer lo?). I went down to where I came from, it stated LIFT TO Lobby ==II. Then I thought the lift might be  located at the other staircase, so I went down this time but there is only one exit which is stated ' To Car Park'. FUCK. I decided to give up the bloody lift and walked all the way up to lobby. ==III.

I walked from block D to block B as direction given and found 'SPECIALIST' at directory board but the only way in from the foyer stated 'Radiotherapy Unit', I was baffled. So I call again, 'it's right next to Radiotherapy centre.' she said. wtf, 'how could it be no proper indication of where the specialist is???'

Before and After Makeup ll

So who is the REAL (FAKE) SOMEBODY? I mean she must be fake but popular. Xia Xue's.

She was awarded the Asia Most Influential Blogger recently, yes I do think she deserved it!!! She 'enable' women in Asia to become hot cute pretty babe!!!! Her efforts on countless experiments, the determination to become a Hero and the guts to share are her key to success.

After ..................................................Before

I ENVY her. Why? Because she is SO PRETTY and she isn't just bimbo but smart (no body like to emphasis the positive positive side of someone, thus the small "smart" ><). She received sponsorships, created advertisements space, invited for product reviews, etc. Most of all she doesn't has to work, oh no she eventually got invited to host some Internet program. Yes, she also married to a cute guy and showered with an opulent wedding which was being sponsored too!!! Holy cow, how can these be possible??!!!!

and she does has good asset - luring, waterfall liked hair. I love it :)

5% talent, 95 % efforts. To make it a success, enormous efforts to rest on. She went under knife as well:

1. double eyelid
2. gum readjustment
3. nose vertical alignment
4. botox and filler? Or Botox is the filler, wtf.
5. eye corner enlargement
6. lip filler
7. .....I think she also did face contour reshape!!



Perhaps her photoshop skills are superb good, I must say she look natural in these photos, her invisalign braces (was being sponsored as well!!!) does enhance her look.  You can also see her make up transformation before after make up. Essentially, I don't see this a big difference as compared to celebrity's before and after..........as well as our day to day make up (to be fair to her lah, however the result would not be so apparent as compare to these 'experts').






To be frank she is quite pretty even before her transformation like type of gal-next-door, today she looks like a pretty STAR. Although I know she might look really pale without make up but I still fancy about her overall make over and it does make a difference in her life.








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Is this a Single Mama blog supposed to blog about her upbring of child? NOOOOO...I'm awesome single mama..AHA. oh sorry, I have to put the Marriage ll post on hold for the time being because this is another exciting post ^^.

Have you ever wonder what can fake eye lashes do?

answer: It can transform whole make up industry to whole new horizon!!. Yes, no kidding, by applying the basic make up  plus the fake eye lashes you can turn yourself from NO BODY to SOME BODY!!!

How to transform? follow these steps, if i remember correctly:

1. BB Cream as foundation

2. Two tone + extra large contact Lens

3. Shimmer light color eyeshadow as base

4. Double eye lid sticker (if you've the tapered eyes)

5. Darker tone eye shadow at the eye lid

6. Eye liner, extend it another 2-3 mm from your usual length
7. Mascara, curl up and apply

7. Now, the main cast - Fake eye lashes!!!
8. Glossy Lipstick

8. hmm.. plus a wavy long hair would be nice

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You're done!

To enhance further, you can apply darken two sides of your nose, blusher at the hollow. For full details, you can also check out this video. It's horrendously beautiful!!!

To reach to the extend of REAL SOMEBODY, I mean REAL FAKE SOMEBODY, maybe..... like her?

First of all you must have a decent look and  a very nice luring hair. Subsequently, master the skill of makeup. Finally, without mentioning - investment (Fake lashes, wage or maintenance of the hair, if you've really nice one, two colour lenses, make up kits). Check out her full details in NO BODY to SOME BODY ll, she's the sifu of all^^.

Essentially, everyone can become THE Somebody by applying steps above-mentioned but I also seen badly makeover one on the streets. REMEMBER, a 'pork chop' isn't a pork chop forever, but immense efforts required for the transformation. I was amazed with EFFECT of this luring looks, from not being spotted on to everybody attracted to. NO, NO KIDDING! I must praise the inventor of fake eye lashes and the medium to induce the vanity. It make ASIA WOMEN go crazy and MEN fall for it!!  Whilst men able to tell the FAKE-NESS, however they can't stop from falling for what they already know is FAKE . Irony huh? Of course, I won't say guys go after only look...>< well, that would be perfect if they really like her for ...........her?

Personally, I don't encourage to to be the slave of makeover for confidents, that's kind of lame & silly. Again, I know once you started wearing it, you're HOOKED!!! So you got to adjust it yourself. I would rather spend time to do something more meaningful..? what are there? MANY LER. Whatever it's, to look drop-dead-gorgeous is everywoman's dream, but don't rely so much.

So all the Single Mama -Just-want-to- have-fun can try to go on a dating with this luring look, seduce the your date and have fun!!  Cheers & Good morning everyone !!! :)

BTW, where to get nice eye lashes? *-)

Marriage Journey Begins I

Many people had misperception that marriage is the end of relationship, not to mention when kid arises. Surprises are luxury, little sweet talking is waste of time, time for two is scarce. Husband and Wife become the slave of stereotype marriage - They work hard, save money, buy house, buy car, baby, then save more money, buy bigger house, bigger car and more babies.

The elderly said, " Financial is the foundation of marriage, wait till you're ready." This is somehow true but not entirely true.

Back to the topic.

Worse still, some couple refused to see the end of their love, some stay on for the kids. I don't understand this, my kid could sense my emotion even I don't talk. What makes you think the kids are ignorant about what's going on? The kids play along with the pretentious game until it broke for good one fine day.  Do you think kids were innocent or the adults were naive? or are they just selfish due to the uncertainty? ................Or the rotten love. Who suffer the lose and the most? 

When we were younger especially the LOVE devotees, how many actually comprehended advices like this? The pledge of LOVE is Everything led marries without further considerations. God knows LOVE would die when the romance and sparks are gone. Work, financial, children and pressure resulted frictions in marriage. Continuous arguments steer to the verge of breaking up, I don't have to illustrate what ended the marriage because you're intelligent to think on your feet.

Essentially, how many marriages are happy amidst the challenges elaborated? How many are pretending? How many are struggling? How many in the midst of getting out? How many already exited?

Wow, sounded so negative. Yes I was very skeptical toward marriage.

Now, If you ask me do I want to get married again?  Yes, I want to but........^^

Stay tune. brb ^^.


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Time is a constraint for Single Mother?

Since I took on the path of Single Mother, my time was always limited. I came home, shower, cooking, dinner, laundry, cleaning, working on the new place then open my laptop and start working again whilst she watching TV or Reading. Sometime I story her to sleep, other time she fell asleep by herself - on the couch. There are times, when I get emotional however work swoop me with no luxury time to grieve, I clear my throat and continue working till late nite. The next day early morning I prepare her breakfast and see her to school bus.

This has been my routine. It has been my sacrifice for our future. I do broke down at times by leading a strenuous life like this, seeing her being unattended and careless (single mama hasn't been transformed ^^). Some times she became emotional and craving for her father (the father never call). I'll put my work aside and give her a short moment of cuddling and comfort then continute to work again. My work can never finish and my time was always limited.

One day she walk to my work place, " Mommy, why are you so busy?". She pout with tears lingering

"Darling, mommy got lot of work to do". I was baffled while looking at the computer screen

" But I want you to sit with me!!". She must have been feeling unattended all these while later she broke into tears.

What have you been doing these past months? I smack my head hard. I felt heart broken, I told myself I won't let her down any second from there on. I was being off balance at one side of my life - work but afterall her happiness is what I'm working hard for. I'd neglected her.

However with so many things in hand - Child care, Personal Care, Work, House chore, New Place, what should I do? Essentially everything evole around your are important but I start prioritize things:

1. Child

2. Work

3. Myself & others

What's more, I cleared my clogging mind from all these miserable thoughts, kept my grievance aside, stay focus on my work. I don't bring work back home anymore and I realize, after prioritize things I do have a lot of time for her!!!

I begin spending quality time with her, watch her favorite TV program, ask about her school, play & fun with her. I begin to apply the Single Mama l spirit every single day. I show her my unconditional loves and we developed a very strong bond from there on. She transformed from a traumatize child to less, from less to a happy child then a happy child led to a happy single parent. She offered in helping house chores to my surprises ^^.

This transformation injected new catalyst in my life -  Personal development. There go the Single Mama ll.

So single mama's time is a constraint? It depends. Long ago someone told me " open one drawer at a time, you'll be fine". Easier said than done, how to juggles with so many things in hand?  Essentially I didn't think it was the right time to enter into any relationship thus  I'm able to give 100% of my time to her. Anyways, this is another topic by itself, I'll cover dating in my next posts.

So in a nutshell, what should a single mother should do?

1. Prioritization. Prioritize your life beb ^.^. What's the first thing come in your mind? You or Child, money or work. Will you happy when you child isn't?

2. Time Management. Essentially everything is important but what's more crucial? Work on the crucial one first or spend more time on that aspect.

3. Determination. Stay focus once you had identify the crucial aspect, zoom in and make it happened 

4. Be positive. Every coin has two faces so does every incident, take note on the negative impact but have faith in the positivity.

5. Have faith. Positivities bring enormous energy to faith. You never know what fate will lead you on, so have faith in decisions you make.

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Nasty Fan

So there is this nasty fan which caused quite a stress on me and TT. The fan went "short circuit" somewhere after a cleaning session during one fine day. It generated nasty sound "gong gong gong gong......." whenever it's spinning. Thought it was due to the imbalance factor (I stand up on the high stool to clean the fan wings, however too short (I'm not short short k) to reach it, so i gotta tilt the wing to wipe).  I went on fixing it over and over but no avail.


I opened the fan neck where all the wires are to diagnose the problem but ignored about the underlying currents. Yes lah, I got eletric shocked (Tai Sei right?, never study well in school). The shock came from nerve of my finger tip and transmit to my brain, I fell onto the bed right away (luckily the bed is just next to the stool). For a while I didn't know I had electric shocks. Though I was lucky because it's just small current but again, since I'm still alive, would it trigger my hidden ability like "SEE THROUGH" or "magnetic" superpower etc (siow, I know).

Well talk these silly whim aside, the reason why I was so keen on fixing it myself because the problem seem bit Stupid. The sound triggered on at speed 2 NOT 1 & 3. OKAY. NOT 1 & 3!!! So you must be thinking, then switch to 1 loh, Jenna said " too slow", switch to 3 loh, she said "too fast" plus " WHY ON EARTH IT TRIGGERED SOUND ONLY AT SPEED 2??!!!!!"

So for a while I gave up on fixing it my own until a technician came but outcome remained the same.

TT refused to sleep in the room because it's annoying. She didn't want to sleep in her own room either yet another room has rented out. So each night we have to spread the mattress, lay the pillow in living hall and pull the blanket from bedroom. Then each morning we got to unfold and move all the blankets and pillow back into room. (of course at times we just chuck it on the couch. wtf).  It's quite tiring to do it every day.

It daunted me with by having a man at home (I'm not a man hatter, even though  I went through marriage failure, just couldn't find a right one). We tried to endure the sounds in the bedroom again since I'm reluctant to make up the living room every morning, however the sound push us away, again. She begged me to sleep in living hall and promised to make up the living room every mornng. As such we have been putting our night in living hall for months now.

Today, I went on fixing it my own again after reading post from Xia Xue. and TA DAH. It's fixed!!!

The nasty sound has subsided and could barely hear!!! It's like you have to stop breathing to hear the sound. I roll on the bed and laugh out loud for my genius-es! Then again I find myself "Siow" laughing all by myself, it's 7am in the morning ==.

So I'm going to tell the good news to TT today. bye for now.

Beautiful Hair

I went on perming and regular colorings resulted my hair went coarse, dry & brittle. Many of my friends advised to sign up on a regular hair treatment course in saloon but I don't believed in paying premium price to maintain a healthy looking hair. Plus, I  am quite skeptical towards chemically made products could keep healthy hair in the long run.


Said is easy than done, getting the right products is always a challenge. Many affordable one  reverted to original state (problem) after few time of using - as frizzy, dry, brittle & worst more dandruff. Thus to drive the sales, new ingridients were introduced overtime, again the result doesn't last. Even my mom knows this is mere marketing gimmick. AHA ><''.


So where do I get good beautiful hair solution yet keeping my dollar spent minimum and reaching the result I wanted - Moisturize, strong & smooth looking hair? Following rules apply:

1. Shampoo your SCULP not hair. Do it once a day or alternate day

2. Condition your hair- half lengh from ends each time washing your hair

3. Keep a dandruff -Free sculp

4. Practise deep treament once a month
5. Go on at least once every three months trimming
6. Know your hair texture. Layered don't go well with coarse texture
7. Get a hair style which suits your life style. Perming doesn't get along with those doesn't have time in treating their hair, as it requires more attention
8. Don't blow dry your hair

After stumbled on many hair solution/produdcts in the market, below are my findings:

1. Choose sodium lauryl sulfate (SLS)-FREE shampoo, need not expensive, this is can be found off the shelve product. i.e. Bawang 霸王。 A herbs based shampoo.

2. Get any off the shelve hair conditioner, need not professional saloon product. Remember shampoo cleanse your sculp and conditioner condition your hair, most of the time you need only condition half a lengh from the end.

3. By using SLS FREED shampoo, you get less danruff. I don't believe in dandruff control shampoo, as it only promote controlling instead of cure the roots. So why no SLS? simple, it dries up your sculp, thus danruff. and Dandruff affect health of your hair, so keeping healthy sculp is the way to beautiful hair.
(Dandruff derived from other factors as well. i.e. Stress, insufficient sleep, unbalance diet etc.)

4. Use any Extra Virgin Olive Oil (EVOO), something you need to invest. It's pure and proven treament to keep your hair moisturize thus healthy. Towel your hair with EVOO for at least 30 mins. EVOO isn't oily as you perceived, it's actually feel like water on your hand and it emits natural olive aroma after applying.
 (You can apply this in your daily diet i.e. greens, pasta etc.)

Above-all, sleep well, balance diet, be happy at all the time, smile is the natural source of living, drinks plenty of water, 2-4 litres apply. My regime is promoting cure from the root, good foundation keep your hair strong with any other products. So leading healthy lifestyle, balance diet plus natural ingredient keep you away from expensive treatment cost and premium hair solutions.

 Before beautiful hair regime, hair looks dry

After, it's softer and smoother, right? ;)

Updates:

I received feedback asking how to keep my daily washing routine as drying hair is challenging. Essentially I don't have special magic to it, usually I just

a) Squeeze and pull the water down from the hair after the fresh rinse
b) Towel dry the hair vertically then any direction
c) Comb the hair with big loose comb you get more water dripping down at this moment
d) Towel dry again at vertical direction
e) Tower dry 2-3 times again as the water will keep dripping

Most people has misperceptions on rough brushing as it would only trap more water within strands since it got tangled, it also damage the hair even more as damp hair is exceptional weak when cuticle are opens.

So by following these five steps you hair would dry up to 60-70% within 30 mins.

Above-all are my experience it may be varied due to different hair texture etc. However you may try and feedback to me.

Children Trauma

During the Single mother journey, signs of her trauma shows. She had poor appetite. Either she eats extremely slow or she eats very little resulted got to throw the food away. No matter how I tell her the importance of eating, she still couldn't keep up with the normal pace of eating. She was very thin. She throws tandrums from time to time. She cries. Be mindful whilst I'm coping with the stress from my new chapter, she is also coping with the stress I release directly or indirectly from my cloging schedules. I know she needs more loves.

Remember I mentioned about I will embark on things only if  I have confidence to lead on? To minimize the stress she has to bear from me, there I develop the spirit of Single Mama. Aparently it works very well and it also led me to see the chain reaction - Positive minded - overcoming stresses, clearer minded to give what's needed by her and ultimately a Happy Child.

So what did I do to show the love she needs in order to improve her trauma? Very SIMPLE.

1. Smile to her whenever we talk - she loves this

2. Cuddle her whenever time is allow - she felt love with touches & kisses

3. Talk very softly with her - anything louder would consider arguing

4. Attend to her each time with smile and soft reply - never say busy

5. Held her hand even whilst driving - she felt being attended to

6. Tell her she's your greatest love, constantly - She felt her values

7. Spend a lot of time with her be it just watching TV - She felt your love
8. Give her compliments - She felt being adored

Above-all keep them in stable environment, they felt secure and able to grow along the way.


Essentially, there are no fix rules how to show love to your kids, but gather feedback from them from time to time. Above-all are feedback from her ^^.  




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